At a party with my husband’s friends, I tried to kiss him while dancing. He pulled away and said, «I’d rather kiss my dog than kiss you.» Everyone laughed. Then he added, «You don’t even meet my standards. Stay away from me.» The laughter got louder. I smiled like it didn’t hurt, but when I finally answered, the room went silent. Some words sting, but mine cut deeper.
«Remember, when someone asks what you do, just say you work at the hospital,» Caleb coached me as I zipped myself into the designer dress he’d selected but never once complimented. «Don’t mention you run the cardiac unit. These people don’t want to hear about medical stuff at parties.»
He was rehearsing me again, the same way he did before every gathering with his investment firm crowd, scripting my responses to ensure I never outshone him. Five years ago, he’d bragged to everyone about marrying a surgeon. Now he treated my career like an embarrassing secret that might accidentally slip out if I wasn’t careful enough.
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I stood in front of our bedroom mirror, adjusting the emerald green fabric that cost more than most people’s monthly rent. The dress was beautiful, I suppose, but it felt like a costume for a play where I’d forgotten all my lines. Behind me, Caleb continued his preparation ritual, checking his collar for the seventeenth time.
Yes, I counted. It was easier to focus on his obsessive adjustments than to think about how we’d gotten here. «The Jenkins will be there,» he continued, scrolling through his phone.
«Remember, he’s in mergers and acquisitions, not private equity. Don’t mix that up again. And his wife’s name is Patricia, not Paula.»
I wanted to tell him that I’d been calling her Patricia for three years, that the Paula incident was his mistake at last year’s Christmas party, but corrections weren’t part of our script anymore. Instead, I watched him transform himself in the mirror, each adjustment to his appearance another step away from the man who’d once waited outside the hospital with coffee and flowers after my tough surgeries. «I saved a twelve-year-old boy today,» I said quietly, testing the waters.
«His mitral valve was…»
«That’s great, honey,» Caleb interrupted, not looking up from his phone. «But nobody wants to hear about blood and procedures over cocktails. Makes people uncomfortable.»
«Just stick to light topics. The weather, vacation plans, maybe that new restaurant downtown everyone’s talking about.»
The weather.
Five years of medical school, three years of residency, two years running the cardiac unit at one of the country’s best hospitals, and he wanted me to discuss cloud formations with investment bankers who probably couldn’t locate their own pulse points. My phone buzzed with a message from my surgical team. The boy was stable, already asking when he could play baseball again.
His mother had cried when I told her the surgery was successful. Those tears meant more to me than any party invitation ever could, but mentioning them would violate Caleb’s carefully constructed rules of engagement. «Also,» Caleb added, finally looking at me through the mirror rather than directly, «Marcus asked about our plans for the Hamilton fundraiser next month.»
«I told him we’d take a table. It’s $50,000, but it’s important for visibility.»
$50,000 for visibility.
Meanwhile, the pediatric ward needed new monitoring equipment that the hospital board deemed too expensive at $30,000. I’d been planning to make a personal donation, but apparently our money was already allocated for Caleb’s networking opportunities. «Ready?» he asked, though it wasn’t really a question.
He was already heading for the door, expecting me to follow like a well-trained accessory. The elevator ride down felt longer than usual. Caleb reviewed names and details about tonight’s guests, treating me like an actress who needed coaching before her performance.
«Tom Morrison closed that pharmaceutical deal last week. Congratulate him, but don’t ask for details. And avoid Jennifer Whitfield if she’s been drinking. She gets chatty about their marriage problems.»
I nodded at appropriate intervals while thinking about my patient’s mother, how she’d grabbed my hands and blessed me in three different languages. That was real. That was substantial.
This elevator ride to another party where I’d pretend to be less than I was… this was the performance.
The valet took our car with practiced efficiency. Caleb’s hand moved to my lower back as we entered Marcus’s building, not out of affection but positioning. He did this at every public event, marking his territory while simultaneously keeping me at the precise distance that suggested togetherness without actual intimacy.
«Remember,» he whispered as we waited for the penthouse elevator, «smile more tonight. You looked miserable at the last party. These are important people, Claire. My career depends on these relationships.»
His career. Not ours. Never ours anymore.
The elevator opened directly into Marcus’s penthouse, and I watched Caleb transform completely. His shoulders straightened, his smile activated with practiced precision, his voice dropped to that confident timbre he thought made him sound more authoritative. «Marcus,» he called out, releasing my back to shake hands with enthusiasm that would disappear the moment we got home.
«Caleb. And Claire.» Marcus added my name like an afterthought, his eyes already moving past me to see who else had arrived. This was my role now: the afterthought, the plus one, the silent partner in a partnership that had become anything but equal.
Jennifer Whitfield approached with air kisses and champagne. «Claire, darling, you look lovely. That dress is divine. Caleb has such good taste.»
Even my appearance wasn’t my own achievement anymore. The dress I wore, the shoes I stood in, the careful way I’d styled my hair—all credited to my husband’s selections as if I were a doll he’d dressed for display.
«Thank you,» I responded with the measured tone I’d learned kept conversations brief. Too much enthusiasm invited follow-up questions; too little marked me as difficult. The balance was exhausting.
«Claire works at the hospital,» Caleb interjected smoothly when Marcus asked what I’d been up to lately.
Just «works at the hospital.» Not «runs the cardiac surgery unit,» or «saved a child’s life today,» or «makes twice my salary keeping people alive.»
Just «works.» At «the hospital.» Like I organized filing systems or delivered meal trays.
I stood there in my expensive dress, holding champagne I didn’t want, smiling at people who looked through me rather than at me, and made a decision. Tonight would be different. Tonight I would try one more time to connect with the man I’d married, to find some remnant of the person who’d once been proud of my accomplishments instead of threatened by them.
One more attempt to salvage what we’d built before it collapsed entirely. If that failed, and part of me already knew it would, then at least I’d know I’d tried everything before whatever came next. The conversation around me shifted to quarterly projections and market volatility, terms that floated past like background static while I watched the room transform.
Someone had dimmed the lights, and the music changed from upbeat cocktail jazz to something slower, more intimate. Marcus took Jennifer’s hand with practiced ease, leading her to the space they’d cleared near the terrace doors. Tyler pulled Sarah close, whispering something that made her laugh and rest her head on his shoulder.
