My husband said my pregnancy disgusted him! His reaction was priceless…
Not one absence for any prenatal appointment. The records had his signature on scorecards and bar tabs for nine months straight. Lauren compared it to my medical records showing 32 appointments Tom never attended.
The pattern was clear, and the judge would see it. My mom came to court for a pretrial hearing about evidence. She testified about our three years trying to have a baby and how happy Tom seemed at first.
She described how he changed completely once I started showing. She said he went from excited to disgusted almost overnight. The judge took notes while my mom talked about Tom avoiding me and refusing to touch my belly.
She mentioned how he wouldn’t even look at ultrasound pictures. Tom sat there shaking his head, but the judge saw everything. Tom tried his big move at the next hearing by bringing up the recording from the hospital.
His lawyer played the part where I said I kept him from the birth on purpose. Tom looked smug until Lauren stood up with her laptop. She played the full recording, including Tom threatening me and talking about custody before even asking about Luna.
The judge’s face got harder with each word. She heard his calculated tone and how he cared more about legal advantage than his newborn daughter. When it finished, she looked at Tom with obvious disgust.
Lauren presented our final evidence package showing Tom never bought anything for the baby. No crib, no clothes, no diapers, nothing. His credit card statements showed restaurants and golf but not one baby store.
We had receipts for everything I bought alone while Tom spent money on his girlfriend. The investigator found he’d bought her jewelry the week I went into preterm labor. He’d taken her to expensive dinners while I was on bed rest.
Every purchase showed his priorities, and none of them involved preparing for Luna. Tom’s mother took the stand two weeks later, and I watched her hands shake as she held the bible. She told the judge that Tom called me hormonal and dramatic when she asked about the pregnancy after that Sunday dinner.
She said he convinced her I was overreacting, and she believed him until she found out about the baby shower from my mom instead of her own son. She broke down crying when she described how he never once mentioned buying anything for the baby or preparing a nursery. The judge took notes while Tom sat there turning red and his lawyer kept trying to object.
But there was nothing to object to since she was just telling the truth about what happened. After her testimony, Tom wouldn’t even look at his mother, and she left the courtroom sobbing while his lawyer requested a recess. The guardian ad litem spent three days observing me with Luna at my parents’ house and interviewed everyone from my neighbors to the pediatrician.
She watched me change diapers and feed Luna and rock her when she cried at two in the morning. She talked to my parents about how they’d been supporting me, and she reviewed all the receipts showing I’d bought everything for the baby myself. Her report came back saying I should keep primary custody, and it specifically mentioned Tom’s concerning detachment from the entire prenatal period.
She wrote that Luna was thriving in my care and that I’d created a stable environment despite the stress of the situation. Tom’s girlfriend apparently didn’t like being charged with violating the restraining order because she started calling witnesses on our list, trying to convince them not to testify. She left voicemails for three different nurses from the hospital and contacted my sister on social media with threats about what would happen if she showed up in court.
The prosecutor added witness intimidation charges, and she got arrested at her job, which made the local news. Tom had to watch his girlfriend get walked out of her office building in handcuffs while news cameras filmed everything. During Tom’s deposition, he sat there sweating while Lauren asked him question after question about the pregnancy.
He admitted he found pregnancy gross but kept saying we were taking it out of context and he didn’t mean it like that. Lauren pulled out every single piece of evidence showing him avoiding me for nine months and asked him to explain each one. He couldn’t explain why he never went to a single appointment or why he was at the golf course instead.
He kept contradicting himself, saying first that I never told him about appointments, then admitting I did invite him. But he thought golf was more important for networking. Lauren’s assistant found something incredible when going through the evidence Tom’s lawyer had to provide.
Tom’s browser history showed he’d been searching for custody lawyers and reading about parental alienation tactics three weeks before I even went into labor. He’d bookmarked articles about how to get full custody and downloaded forms for emergency custody orders while I was still pregnant. He’d been planning to take Luna from me before she was even born, and the timestamps proved it all happened right after he told me to stop talking about the pregnancy.
The judge ordered psychological evaluations for both of us, which meant spending four hours with a court-appointed psychologist answering questions and taking tests. Mine came back completely normal, with the doctor noting I was dealing with appropriate stress given the situation but showing no signs of mental illness or instability. Tom’s evaluation was different because it showed narcissistic tendencies and an inability to accept responsibility for his actions.
The psychologist wrote that Tom consistently blamed others for the consequences of his own behavior and showed no genuine remorse. The report said Tom viewed the custody battle as a competition to win rather than focusing on what was best for Luna. Tom’s workplace finished their investigation after interviewing everyone who worked with him and reviewing the security footage of his girlfriend getting arrested in their parking lot.
They fired him for creating a hostile work environment and lying about his family situation to gain sympathy from co-workers. He’d been telling people I was keeping him from his daughter when, really, he’d been the one who abandoned us during the pregnancy. The termination letter mentioned damage to the company’s reputation and his lack of judgment.
Without a job, Tom couldn’t pay his lawyer the next installment of fees, and the lawyer filed a motion to withdraw from the case. The judge wouldn’t let him quit this close to the final hearing but said Tom had to pay up front for the lawyer to continue. Tom spent two weeks trying to get loans and asking family members for money, but everyone knew why he needed it and nobody would help him.
His own brother told him he deserved what was happening after how he treated me. Tom’s grandmother called Lauren’s office and said she wanted to pay my legal fees because she’d been horrified by Tom’s behavior. She came to the office with a cashier’s check for the full amount and told me she wanted to make sure Luna was protected from Tom’s selfishness.
She said she’d already written Tom out of her will and wanted to leave everything to Luna instead but wanted to make sure Tom couldn’t get his hands on it. Tom found out when his grandmother told him at Sunday dinner that she was paying for my lawyer, and he threw his plate against the wall. The final custody hearing lasted three days, and Tom took the stand on the second day, trying to paint himself as a victim of a vindictive wife.
He said I’d deliberately kept him from bonding with his daughter and that I’d turned everyone against him, including his own family. Lauren started her cross-examination by asking him to explain why he called pregnancy disgusting, and Tom lost his temper within five minutes. He started yelling that everyone was twisting his words, and the judge had to warn him twice about his behavior.
Lauren calmly presented each piece of evidence and asked Tom to explain it, but he just kept getting angrier and contradicting things he’d said earlier in his testimony. Lauren kept pushing him with questions about why he never bought baby items or went to any appointments, and Tom’s face turned red as he gripped the witness stand. The judge had to bang her gavel when Tom started shouting that I was twisting everything to make him look bad.
Lauren stayed calm and pulled out more evidence, including texts where Tom told his friends he was glad I was staying at my parents’ house because he could game all night. When it was finally my turn to testify, I walked to the witness stand holding Luna, who was sleeping in my arms. I told the court about the morning Tom called my pregnancy disgusting and how those words felt like a knife in my chest after three years of trying for this baby.
The whole courtroom went quiet as I described staying at my parents’ house and following his exact instructions to never mention the pregnancy. I explained how scared I was when he showed up with that recording and how calculating his smile looked when he threatened to take Luna. Several people in the gallery gasped when I described him punching the wall and demanding I tell him about the pregnancy after specifically ordering me not to.
Lauren asked me to describe how I felt during those months, and I said I felt completely alone and terrified that the man I married had turned into someone I didn’t recognize. The judge took notes the entire time, and her face grew harder with each detail I shared. Tom’s lawyer tried to make me look vindictive during cross-examination, but I just calmly repeated the facts and pointed to all the witnesses who saw everything happen.
After three days of testimony, the judge said she needed time to review everything and would deliver her verdict the next morning. That night I couldn’t sleep and just held Luna close while my parents assured me everything would be okay. The next morning, the courtroom was packed, and Tom sat there looking confident, like he thought he’d won.
The judge started by saying she’d reviewed all the evidence and testimony carefully. She said Tom’s behavior during the pregnancy showed a pattern of emotional abuse and neglect that deeply concerned her. She granted me full legal and physical custody, with Tom only getting supervised visitation after he completed parenting classes and anger management therapy.
Tom jumped up and started screaming that I’d ruined his life and stolen his daughter from him. The judge banged her gavel and warned him to sit down, but he kept yelling that this was all a conspiracy against him. Two bailiffs grabbed Tom’s arms as the judge held him in contempt and ordered him removed from the courtroom.
Luna stayed peaceful in my arms the whole time, like she knew she was safe with me. Tom was still screaming about how unfair everything was as they dragged him out in handcuffs. Two weeks passed, and Lauren called to tell me Tom still hadn’t signed up for any of the required classes or therapy sessions.
She documented everything and filed it with the court in case Tom tried to change the custody arrangement later. His girlfriend showed up at my parents’ house with a letter, saying she was sorry for everything and had no idea what really happened. She said Tom told her I was crazy and keeping him from his baby, but after the trial, she realized he’d been lying the whole time.
She looked genuinely upset and said she felt terrible for believing him and for showing up at the house that day. I told her it wasn’t her fault since Tom was good at manipulating people, and she left looking relieved that I didn’t hate her. Tom’s mother called that week, saying he’d moved back in with them because he couldn’t afford his apartment anymore without a job.
She was furious with him and said she couldn’t believe she’d raised someone who would treat his pregnant wife that way. She asked if she could still see Luna, and I said of course because none of this was her fault. She started visiting every week and always brought little gifts for Luna while never once trying to defend Tom’s behavior.
